No two people are the same. This is especially true when it comes to romance. The problem is sometimes we get so wrapped up in finally making it work, we dismiss things that are not as simple as a difference in opinion. I firmly believe that people show themselves, because it is not human nature to be anything other, than what you are. It is human nature to ignore what doesn’t work. This is how the dirty dirty creeps of the world keep tricking us into going on dates with them. Do not take any of this to mean I’m an expert. There’s no such thing because while there is science involved, love hasn’t been worked out to exact measurements. I simply know people. All I’m doing here is reminding others as I’ve needed reminding myself, to pay attention.
- He Shops at Pac Sun Un-ironically- You go to the mall on your mutual day off. Boyfriend wants to go into a store and buys a plain white T-shirt and a pair of equally as plain black sneakers. His total is a whopping $150 which, you comment, is far too much money for what he got. The moment he opens his mouth to justify that it is all name brand, you should just get your stuff and go block his number. In a life together this person will spend even money you don’t have on things neither of you need, because of the label.
- When she is around, dogs and babies get triggered- I am not talking about one yippee dog or a certain baby that every one knows is kind of an asshole. You know exactly what I’m talking about. Those people who seem normal but just happen to piss off the worlds most innocent inhabitants. Babies and dogs are great judges of character because they are still unencumbered enough to see into the soul. If they don’t like what they see, eventually you won’t either.
- He uses the words dork and nerd both interchangeably and condescendingly- I would never do that because I’m not a nerd. Maybe I would have that problem too if I was as dorky as you. Anyone you date should use these terms endearingly. The other way implies that he actually believes he doesn’t have any quirks. Which either makes him delusional or worse, normal.
- She mistreats the waitress- Unless we want to live in a world where we do business through robots we may run into a person, who makes a mistake. As far as I’m concerned how you handle that is who you are. There is nothing wrong with demanding quality but the way someone addresses what’s wrong is very important, and speaks to character.
5. He knows all- When a relationship is healthy it requires a lot of bending and growth from both parties. Compromise is good but if you are always the one doing it you may not have chosen very well.
I know that all of this sounds like a lot of negative at the same time, but that’s not the way I see it. Once you weed out what you don’t want there is time to focus on what do.